Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

Regrets of Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so much.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

From the book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying  by Bronnie Ware

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Burn Bright, Not Out


“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 

― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"


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Get Happy Now - Plan Your Next Vacation

It’s summer time. Hopefully you are on or about to be on a vacation. If not, have you figured out your next trip? If you haven’t, you may be missing out on increasing your happiness RIGHT NOW. So put in your leave request and start dreaming to increase your happiness. 

According to a 2010 study out of the Netherlands by Jeroen Nawijn from the Journal of the Applied Research in Quality of Life, the happiness you gain from a vacation, is NOT from the vacation itself. Rather, the happiness gained is from the anticipation of the trip. We’ve been there before: amazing trip but wasn’t restful, outstanding trip but the return home was terrible, or you were so worried about all the work at home that the latter half of your trip was ruined.

Can you remember a time as a child when you were excited about a trip? I remember being so excited about going to Disney Land. I would plan what rides I would go on, and what treats I would eat. Can you remember how excited you were as you counted the days down? Can you remember how much joy you felt?

Now, I am a total controller and planner at work, but when it comes to vacations I leave it to my partner. My over analytical mind can make choosing the right hotel and finding the best flights to be stressful.  So how exactly does planning and anticipating a vacation create happiness?

The key is DREAMING, just like you did as a kid. Immerse yourself in the destination. Here are some ways you can dive in and start enjoying your vacation now before you even pack your bags:

1. Read travel books or novels set in your destination

  • Flying to Northern Spain? Read Hemingway’s The Sun Also Rises
  • Jetting off to Japan? Read Rice, Noodle, Fish: Deep Travels through Japan’s Food culture, by Matt Goulding

2. Watch movies or tv shows set in your upcoming vacation spot

3. Browse the internet! There are so many blogs and vlogs out there about travel, food, and design either from or about where you are going. Here are a couple to get your started:

By reading books, articles, and watching films related to your trip, you can enjoy your vacation sooner. You can imagine what the warm wet Brazilian air feels like as you sip a caipirinha on the beach. You can hear the sound of church bells as you get lost in the cobblestone back roads of Rome. You can imagine tasting the sweet funk of a durian in your mouth, while sitting on a plastic stool on a busy Hanoi sidewalk.

No matter what happens on the trip, no matter how great or bad, you will always have the fun, and the enjoyment of planning and dreaming about the trip.

Just don’t forget the most important part, you gotta go on your vacation! The clinic, hospital, or operating room will continue on without you. Get out of town and get some perspective. So start planning your next trip now, and start being happy now! 

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What Would You Do?

Imagine this...You arrive at work.  It’s a normal routine day when you suddenly hear: BANG! BANG! BANG!

An armed man comes into your office and holds a gun to your head.  He is contemplating shooting you, and says, “You have one minute to make a phone call before I kill you.”


Who will you call? What will you tell them?




Take a moment or two. Think about this deeply.















Have your answer?














No?  Stop and think until you have a clear answer in your mind.
















You got it now?





















Why aren’t you making this phone call right now?




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What if you were fully charged?

We love our iPhones. Its useful in accessing email, finances, social media, and a multitude of medical apps.  The only downside of the frequent usage is the battery tends to be drained near the end of the day.  This is easily fixed with a simple plug-in to the wall outlet and a few hours later, BOOM, fully charged.

Doctors are like iPhones.  Today, it feels like there are a lot of half-charged or quarter-charged physicians.  According to an article in

Nearly half of physicians struggle with burnout. High rates of exhaustion and depersonalization are driving many to consider leaving practice, which would exacerbate doctor shortages and affect patient care.

When I think of burnout, I think of a person who needs to get recharged.  It's almost as simple as plugging an iPhone into the socket, except the greatest challenge is to give the adequate time necessary to re-charge.  

Now imagine a world where anytime you went to plug in your iPhone someone came up to you and slapped your charger out of your hands, accusing your iPhone of being selfish or lazy.

Well you don’t need to imagine it.  While there is no stigma for an iPhone for being plugged in the wall, we consciously or unconsciously find ourselves feeling shamed for taking a break amidst a busy shift.  Or whispers turn to gossip when someone takes a sick day.

Comparing us to iPhones, it would make sense to prize a physician who is energized, present, healthy, balanced, and fully using their medical skills.  Although we say we favor this type of physician, our medical culture speak otherwise.  The current fleet of zombie-like, preoccupied physicians is evidence of this.  If we really wanted what we say we do, we would support our colleagues in recharging their batteries. 

Instead we expect increased patient satisfaction, higher RVUs, better technical skills while not supporting the rejuvenation of the physician to be able to accomplish this.  How absurd would it be to demand our iPhones to work perfectly the next day, but refuse to plug it in overnight? Yet that is exactly what we do with ourselves and our colleagues. 

Humans are way more complex and unique than a simple iPhone. So for some people, the time to recharge may take a few days.  For others, a few weeks to months to years.  Furthermore, some people may benefit greatly when they remove some of the apps (or activities) that deplete their energy the fastest.

What could we do if we were ALL fully charged? 

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